Love Language

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Love language  (Have it in pixie dust)

I remember when my friend Bill Flash name on Screen visited me in the hospital…those first few days after my stroke …in March 2008. 

I motioned for Bill to hand me a pencil and paper. Pause Then I scribbled out a note. Pause

I then looked at what I wrote and it became clear to me…. Pause  I understood the challenges that I would be facing… going foward. Pause

I told him to deliver the note to my wife.   He looked at it and Pause  became tearing eyed. Show teary eyed clip

Teary Eyed

I still have the note and I can see why he became teary eyed. It  Show note    said  tell my wife Jill Pause that I still “ love her. “ Pause   Different Angle Now I’m becoming teary eyed!  Different Angle  Pause

Even when I didn’t know anything, I still knew that one thing: I loved my wife!  Show hearts

Are you in a relationship now? Pause  Are you going thru life,…married…and just taking that relationship for granted?  Pause  Different Angle Don’t do that! Different Angle

Listen To This!

Stop what you are doing …and start expressing gratitude… Pause today.

Pause First, Tell her how well she treats other people;  Different Angle

Pause Second, Tell her you like her sense of humor; Different Angle

Pause Third, Tell her that you really respect her.   Different Angle

Pause Fourth, Tell her that she makes you laugh at the funny stuff  Different Angle

Pause  and finally Fifth, Tell her that you love just being around her. Different Angle

Pause Are you doing this nowPause

Gary Chapman ’s book….The 5 love languages,  explains how you need to talk in your partners love language.  Pause

It Works!

Jill told me about the book and suggested I take the Love Language test.  Pause  It turned LL Test out our love languages… LL Test are similar. …We do value what the other person is feeling.

The Love Language book has changed the way we look at relationships. Pause  Where do you start??? Pause

Take the Love Language  Quiz and read the Love Language book. Love language quiz This will lead you to speak in THEIR love language; honor where THEY are.

Pause I summary, THEIR life … Pause  and YOUR life Pause  will be out if this world! Pause Pause


You want to know something??  Pause Gifts Pause is one of the love languages…and is not one of the things that means that much to us; Pause show love language but gifts  was my mothers Love Language; Pause  

She was all about gifts. Gifts for Christmas, gifts for your birthday, little cards for no apparent reason, etc. Pause Pause I realized that, and started giving her gifts and cards… around holidays, especially mothers day!  She love that;  What a difference it made in her remaining years!  Smile

My First Blog…

OK, this is not my FIRST blog, I posted 673 blogs already.

However, today I will be starting my NEW Blog…Life After The Stroke. After careful consideration of what I would after the pandemic, I am decided to be a full time blogger, while I can be home and travel for pleasure. The speaking business has had its challenges and most of the speakers are giving the presentations in ZOOM. That works, but not for the people I am trying to reach.

I Start My New Gig…Today!

I hope you will join me in my new venture; I am VERY excited about what the next chapter looks like. You notice I said MY new venture; I am going to try to keep the stress off of Jill. But after I said it, there ARE still some things that I will ask her to do… but don’t tell her.

First, before I start my blog in September, let me give the good news: my two children got engaged, to different people, in August.

We spent time with each of them in the past year, but we didn’t expect this…in the same month; Holy cow!!!! (It has been said I say that often.) Now, there are ALL the things associated with a wedding.

Stella, Rachel, Nat, Ryan
Tom, Bethany, Gordon, Jill

Who Will Be First?

So who is getting married first? As of now (things change hourly),

Tom is expecting a tiny ceremony in December 2020 and he will have 2 “parties” in Oregon and in New Jersey sometime in the future.

Jill did the leg work and found out what it would cost to do at Oswego Hills Winery. (Note: Jill is having frequent conversations with Tom and Bethany so things are for ever changing.) It DOESN’T look like they will be having it there…but things change!

Rachel is planning a ceremony and party on November 6, 2021…so we have a year to plan. I am guessing she is VERY excited about that one. She told us they are looking at Anthem, AZ for a hew home. How exciting!

Where Do I Start?

In September, I will be trying NEW stuff. I will talk about my early days of the stroke and think back on what I learned about myself during the stroke. I will be addressing some serious topics and throw some humor to make it lighter.

I am only planning on 1 maybe… occasionally 2 blogs per week because writing a blog is difficult! Also, I want to do some video blogs…and they are V E R Y difficult to do!

While it sounds good, consider this: First, I have to write out what I want to say…and then I have to practice saying it. Easy? I did a two minute video of me talking about why I would not be communicating during our meeting. The video was recorded 6 years ago (nice glasses), so I am a little better now… but the 2 minute video took a month to get it right! Even now, I cringe when I watch it, so that is up in the air.

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And finally…

Here is the reason we enjoy life…

Can we talk for a minute?

I thought about it a lot …and I feel the need to say something…my kids are awesome!

I know what your thinking: they probably look at my site a few times a week to see how I am doing.  No! …But to be fair,  if my father had a website, I wouldn’t have look at it either.

Why am I excited?  My kids are becoming REAL people!


Rachel (21) is attending here last year at Universally of Oregon.

Rachel came home for 1 day this weekend and we had a fabulous time.  We did our weekly run (Einsteins, Target and Costco) and then we went to Ikea. We had a great time.  Then we went to the car wash (for the outside) and we cleaned the inside.  While we cleaned the car, she told me what is in her plans after she graduates.  I must say, I was really impressed with how much thought she has given her future. file.rTom (19) is attending Oregon State.

Tom only comes homes come when school is out.  The way I see it, he is finding himself and I think the time away is good.  I realize I am completely stupid now, but hopefully I will start gaining knowledge when he gets into his 20’s.  This is what happened to my father and me.  He made amazing strides when I reached 25.

I just want to say how proud I am of our 2 adults!  They both reached out to us today and I can’t tell you how impressed I was with them.