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Helpful places to turn

Posted by Staci Blinn  

A stroke in the family is sudden, unexpected and challenging to a caregiver. National Stroke Association developed the Careliving Guide to assist family members throughout the caregiving process.

Another place to turn for support is the Careliving Community—an online network for caregivers to connect with others, share stories, discuss issues and support one another.

Here’s a list of other resources that may help to meet the needs of caregivers:

• Caregiver Action Network: Serves family caregivers across the United States. Provides education, peer support, and resources to caregivers. Their services are provided free of charge. Check out the Family Caregiver Toolbox, which is full of useful resources to benefit caregivers and their families.

• Family Caregiver Alliance: Provides information for family caregivers in many different roles. Also provides an interactive map–just click on your state and see what resources are available to you.

• Caregiver Newsletter: Provides twice-weekly newsletters discussing a wide array of caregiving topics. Sign up here.

• Benefits Checkup: Find which benefit programs can help you pay for medications, healthcare, food, utilities, and more. This site is brought to you by the National Council on Aging.

• Paying for Senior Care: Medical costs can add up quickly and Medicare and insurance doesn’t cover everything. Paying for Senior Care is dedicated to helping people find the assistance. Check out the Resources Locator Tool to see what help might be available to you and your family.

You are THE man!

I was racking my brain this morning trying to figure out what to do next.  I couldn’t figure out how to set my WordPress site up with Google.  I was even Googling (is that a word?) for help.

But my brain didn’t want to work. I  was suddenly struck with too many things to handle and my brain just shut down, confused. I decided to go out in my garden and just walk around. If you ever been to my garden, it takes 3 seconds to walk the grounds. So, I decided to just stand in the middle.

Bill came over to drop off plants that my wife will watch where they are gone.  If you have been reading since the beginning, you know that Bill was a MAJOR help with my wife figuring out Quicken.  And Bill was also a wizard with websites.  So I asked him for help.  It took me a while to get out the correct sentences, but he finally understood.  In less than 5 minutes, he got my site working with Google.  Bill was amazing!  He did stuff on my computer that I didn’t even know you could do.

I told Bill I would write about him BEFORE he left.  Bill…you are THE man!

Helping is a two-way street

Everyone struggles with how to help another person in need.  We might know someone in crisis and we want to help but we are afraid to ask questions and we don’t want to be nosey or impose.  We end the conversation with “If there is anything I can do, please let me know.”  The offerer and the offeree end up looking at each other with nothing to say and no help happens.  I have been on both ends of this conversation and am writing now to offer some insights.

In our stroke experience, we had the good fortune of knowing people who offered specific help–I’ll mow your lawn; I’ll clean your house; I will organize meals for you; etc.  People were amazingly generous and helpful and we are so grateful.

The experience highlighted the fact that helping is a two-way street.  People were willing to help us and we were willing to accept help.  By being open and communicating effectively, we were able to receive the help we needed.  Nothing was wasted, every effort was appreciated.  I shudder to think what would have happened if I had rejected offers of help and tried to do everything on my own.

Click here for:

  1. a list of items to have in order BEFORE a crisis happens, and
  2. a practical list of how to be helpful when a crisis occurs.

Jill Viggiano

What more can I learn?

mobile-learning-tech-online-edI was thinking I could learn a few more things to boost me to the next level.  The TRUE answer: I need to learn EVERYTHING!

After accepting the fact, I felt kind of relieved.  I DON’T know everything and nobody expects me to! You don’t know how freeing this was.

I thought :                                                The truth is:
My website was killer                                It needs some work

I thought :                                                The truth is:
My speech was ready                               It needs some work

I thought :                                                The truth is:
My sales process was working                   It needs some work

The GOOD news:  I found my angel…and she agreed to do it… for free!

I met her while she presented at the NSA Convention.  I got her address and I mailed her Jill’s book just to thank her.   She received it, read the book and attempted to email me the next morning.  She was up at 6:00am HER time, which was 4:00am here!  She told me how much she enjoyed the book and how she want to help us.  Do you believe that?

What a gift!