Holy cow…I am 60!

I turned 60 at the beginning of the year…but I am NOW considering what that means.  What have I done with my life?

My father had a heart attack at 60 and died from another heart attack at age 62.  Did he teach others how to succeed in sales?   Did he mentor others to take risks?  Did he coach others that needed a coach?  The answer: No…but I am not doing that either!

When I was in my early 20’s, I was confident I would my successful, but it would take some time. So I spent my 20’s, 30’s, 40’s and 50’s putting the plan in place that would help me accomplish my goals.  Now I am 60, and where am I?

I didn’t accomplish any of my life changing goals!

But I did achieve my annual goals; I dated a lot, I got married to my beautiful wife, I raised 2 great kids, I went on nice vacations, I have a great home.  But did I accomplish anything significant? Not really.   OK, now that I think about it, I have accomplished a lot!

I have lived each day as if it were my last and I feel blessed with every remaining day.  After my stroke, I am content with what I have and find joy with the things that other people have.  I can’t explain it, but I think that defines happiness!

Good…but different

After giving my speech last week, an audience member thanked me for talking about how “normal life” changes after a dramatic event.  He talked about the realization that “recovery” doesn’t necessarily mean going back to the way things were.

This is an important distinction.  In my speech, I talk about Gordon’s and my decision that life was still going to be good after his stroke, even though it was going to be different.   When our “normal life” was taken away from us, we chose to embrace the different life we were given.

There is still love and happiness to be had in this different life.  Yes, I miss the old life sometimes but I cannot let myself dwell on it.  It is gone.  We have today and it is good–good but different.

Jill Viggiano