How could people get divorced? It is devastating!

How could they get divorced?  Pixie Dust

DA People ….are getting …a divorce? DA

In 2020, Gordon Viggiano I had extra time to do some different things.  My speaking business has disappeared because of Covid. But I figured, that I would spend a little more time on Facebook and re-kindle the relationships I USED to have. 


And what did I find?   …. People are getting divorced!  In my busy, hectic  time,…. I didn’t think about it…so now, I… did because of Covid.

For me and my wife Jill, it brought me closer to her ….and I thought…. that was true of everyone. DA Nope. DA

I counted the people I knew who got divorced   ….I was amazed….At least 22  people …I know of…got divorced!

What set it off? … I knew this one couple BEFORE they were married because they both had good jobs and were excited about getting married.  Along the way, they gave birth to 3 beautiful children.  I thought: they did it right;…. THEY are the ones to look at as a happily married.

Then I read on Facebook that ….they were getting a divorce.  DA What??? DA 

They SEEMED so happy!  What went wrong?

They were married for a number of years and they became incompatible.  Rather than work through it, ….they got divorced.

That depressed me. 

DA Are people ever happy? DA

When your kids get married, …do you celebrate…or do just you wait patiently until they get divorced?

Why are people so fickle ?

When I was MUCH younger, I thought I understood ….the way life.  You go out, you really like someone ….and you get married…..  If it doesn’t go as planned, ….you get divorced. It seemed quite simple, right?

What changed my thinking?… I met Jill. The day I meet her,…. I KNEW I wanted to be with her…. the rest of my life.   DA Doesn’t EVERYONE have that feeling? DA

We both have been tested…and we both have honored the commitment we made.   The few times we disagreed, we talked about it,….resolved it.…and it was over.

Why can’t everyone have THAT! 

30 Years of Marriage Celebrated last week….

Commitment is everything!

This was my 30 year wedding anniversary; we spent it at The Nine’s Hotel in Portland! What a great time we had; unfortunately, we both got sick!

We came home the next day and we both felt a little off.  We spent the next 2 days  sleeping/napping.

Not quite what you want 30 years a marriage to bring, but we slogged through it. I wanted to go on a cruise for this miraculous 30 years, but that didn’t come to be.  We settled on the Nine’s and it was great to be there.

I think THAT is why we are so happy.  My wife can give you some others, but here are mine:

1. Marriage is 100%/100%, NEVER 50%/50%
2. Simple acts of love keep 2 people knitted together
3. Never go to bed mad
4. Always compliment each other
5. Be happy with what ever you are doing….even if it is going for a walk
6. Wake up and Bless each day you are alive
7. Commitment is everything; be committed to each other

OK, I said that already in the first line, bit I think is is important. Now you know our secret; please reach out and share your secrets.

and one more testimonial…

Am I on a roll? It is kind of cool getting one more testimonial in a month:




Wow! Overcoming adversity, commitment, love, Faith, communication, passion, are just some of the things I felt during Gordon and Jill’s presentation. But the biggest thing that pulled at my emotion was a desire to act! Get my life and protection based assets in order and fast. 

Also, I was inspired to go and help more people get their financial life in order ASAP. I will not take ‘NO’ for an answer!


Jim Lake
VP & National Head of Sales, Life, DI, & Retirement Income Specialists, CAS, RICP®