Love Language

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Love language  (Have it in pixie dust)

I remember when my friend Bill Flash name on Screen visited me in the hospital…those first few days after my stroke …in March 2008. 

I motioned for Bill to hand me a pencil and paper. Pause Then I scribbled out a note. Pause

I then looked at what I wrote and it became clear to me…. Pause  I understood the challenges that I would be facing… going foward. Pause

I told him to deliver the note to my wife.   He looked at it and Pause  became tearing eyed. Show teary eyed clip

Teary Eyed

I still have the note and I can see why he became teary eyed. It  Show note    said  tell my wife Jill Pause that I still “ love her. “ Pause   Different Angle Now I’m becoming teary eyed!  Different Angle  Pause

Even when I didn’t know anything, I still knew that one thing: I loved my wife!  Show hearts

Are you in a relationship now? Pause  Are you going thru life,…married…and just taking that relationship for granted?  Pause  Different Angle Don’t do that! Different Angle

Listen To This!

Stop what you are doing …and start expressing gratitude… Pause today.

Pause First, Tell her how well she treats other people;  Different Angle

Pause Second, Tell her you like her sense of humor; Different Angle

Pause Third, Tell her that you really respect her.   Different Angle

Pause Fourth, Tell her that she makes you laugh at the funny stuff  Different Angle

Pause  and finally Fifth, Tell her that you love just being around her. Different Angle

Pause Are you doing this nowPause

Gary Chapman ’s book….The 5 love languages,  explains how you need to talk in your partners love language.  Pause

It Works!

Jill told me about the book and suggested I take the Love Language test.  Pause  It turned LL Test out our love languages… LL Test are similar. …We do value what the other person is feeling.

The Love Language book has changed the way we look at relationships. Pause  Where do you start??? Pause

Take the Love Language  Quiz and read the Love Language book. Love language quiz This will lead you to speak in THEIR love language; honor where THEY are.

Pause I summary, THEIR life … Pause  and YOUR life Pause  will be out if this world! Pause Pause

Gifts

You want to know something??  Pause Gifts Pause is one of the love languages…and is not one of the things that means that much to us; Pause show love language but gifts  was my mothers Love Language; Pause  

She was all about gifts. Gifts for Christmas, gifts for your birthday, little cards for no apparent reason, etc. Pause Pause I realized that, and started giving her gifts and cards… around holidays, especially mothers day!  She love that;  What a difference it made in her remaining years!  Smile

My LAST peach!

Why do I look so happy???

TRUE…I had the best peaches EVER from this 3 year old tree. BUT is because this is my last peach? 

NOPE! It is because my wife is writing an addendum to my book!  I can’t believe the book is almost  years old and A LOT has happened since we published that book.  I don’t want to spoil the sequel, but I WILL tell you 2 things that I am proud of.

First:  one of most successful things I accomplished in my 62 years:





I know it isn’t much…but it is a picture of what true determination really is. I stopped worrying about having the biggest house or having the coolest car. When my life was taken away from me, I looked at what was really important: my wife, my kids and my beautiful granddaughter.

What do you think? I make just the right amount of money to live…not more…not less.

And second: When I have the need for something out of the ordinary,  a door opens up.

Case In Point

I wanted to do something special for Jill’s birthday (last November); she’s been taking care of me …for almost 11 years!  Since I couldn’t spend much money, I told my daughter, Rachel,that I would have the surprise party it at our house.I said “It will be easy; we just buy some food.” She just laughed and said “you can’t have at our house. Who is going to clean it up.”….  She was right! Then Rachel suggested I have birthday party at Lake Theatre & Cafe. When I inquired about the cost, they told me it would be about

$1600 inclid

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

$1600 including the cost of the cookies and cake.

$1600 including the cost of the cookies and cake.

While I now that Jill deserved the celebration, I didn’t know where I would get the money to pay for it. Then I received THIS is the mail…a check from the US Treasury Department for $1682!

I wasn’t expecting it… it just came…for the almost the exact amount my party would cost….

I won’t tell anything more; I don’t want to spoil Jill’s sequel.  I am sure that she will do a far better job of telling her story. That is one of her many gifts.

Do you want to see some more good news?

WOW…I was amazed by the kind words of the people attending.  They did a survey of the conference attendees…and this is what they said.  I included “Gordon and Jill Viggiano were excellent” only one time because it was said by SO MANY people:

It was all good, but the Viggiano’s personal story of overcoming his stroke really drove home the importance of what we do. Very moving!

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Gordon and Jill Viggiano were excellent!  (A lot of people said this!)

Great presentation. Inspirational.

Amazing story; very inspiring!

The general session with the Viggiano’s was incredible.

Spoke greatly to my day to day in communicating the importance of a DI policy.

Very inspiring. Good choice to have someone speaks who has benefited from one of our products.

Amazing and inspiring story!!

I am going through something similar with my husband so this hits home.  I’m going to share the info with him.

Very thought provoking!  Thank you.

Thank you for sharing your story and vulnerability. It’s a poignant reminder of why we do the work we do.

Very moving!

Such a powerful story!  I enjoyed both aspects. Nobody is immune so being protected is so important.

Very moving and it tells as excellent story as to why insurance is so important.

Very inspiring. Good choice to have someone speaks who has benefited from one of our products.

Very inspiration, touching and motivating. People with different abilities can still be contributing members of society and Gordon is living proof.  Never give up!  You both are amazing! I’m glad you had the disability coverage to help you financially. Keep the faith and continue to inspire others!

This was a wonderful presentation!

Good News!

I felt good after my speech, but I always wonder how people feel about me sharing my faith.  I received this email:

Gordon and Jill it was a wonderful honor and blessing to hear your story and meet you in San Diego.  Thank you very much for your strength and perseverance.  I started reading your book last night and got to the section about day 8 post stroke.  I’m looking forward to the rest of the story.  As I mentioned when I met you, thank you for sharing your faith and being strong witnesses.  It’s always encouraging to see God’s love at work in the lives of others.  May God continue to richly bless you and your son and daughter.  Best wishes for continued success! –

Keith

Good News!

I felt good after my speech, but I always wonder how people feel about me sharing my faith.  I received this email:

Gordon and Jill it was a wonderful honor and blessing to hear your story and meet you in San Diego.  Thank you very much for your strength and perseverance.  I started reading your book last night and got to the section about day 8 post stroke.  I’m looking forward to the rest of the story.  As I mentioned when I met you, thank you for sharing your faith and being strong witnesses.  It’s always encouraging to see God’s love at work in the lives of others.  May God continue to richly bless you and your son and daughter.  Best wishes for continued success! –

Keith

Jill is just amazing! Come see her speak….

Jill Viggiano headshot

Business Men And Women of
PORTLAND BUSINESS LUNCHEON
Invite you to Downtown April 26 with

Jill Viggiano

 You are invited to join us for our Downtown PBL luncheon, on Wednesday, April 26th at the University Club in downtown Portland. Our guest speaker will be Jill Viggiano.
Jill Viggiano spent 19 years working in commercial real estate before retiring to become a full time mom. As an active volunteer, Jill couldn’t help but raise her hand and take on leadership roles in the community.
The opportunity to form and advance philanthropic organizations and their causes kept her engaged in both local and national efforts. Jill’s style is to create a team environment where cooperation and accomplishment happen while having fun.
When her husband survived a massive stroke in 2008, Jill focused her skills on his recovery. She now assists him in his day-to-day needs as well as in his speaking career.
Jill wrote Painful Blessing, a book about her spouse and caregiver experience shedding light on the real life impact of acquired brain injury, and providing hope and encouragement to those facing significant challenges.
Jill’s story will touch your soul and inspire you to press through any circumstance. The cost of lunch is $25.00. Register today and invite a friend.
LUNCHEON DETAILS
RSVP REQUIRED
UNIVERSITY CLUB
1225 SW 6th Ave. Portland, OR 97204
WEDNESDAY APRIL 26TH
11:45 AM- 1:15 P

 

Jill is just amazing! Come see her speak….

Jill Viggiano headshot

Business Men And Women of
PORTLAND BUSINESS LUNCHEON
Invite you to Downtown April 26 with

Jill Viggiano

 You are invited to join us for our Downtown PBL luncheon, on Wednesday, April 26th at the University Club in downtown Portland. Our guest speaker will be Jill Viggiano.
Jill Viggiano spent 19 years working in commercial real estate before retiring to become a full time mom. As an active volunteer, Jill couldn’t help but raise her hand and take on leadership roles in the community.
The opportunity to form and advance philanthropic organizations and their causes kept her engaged in both local and national efforts. Jill’s style is to create a team environment where cooperation and accomplishment happen while having fun.
When her husband survived a massive stroke in 2008, Jill focused her skills on his recovery. She now assists him in his day-to-day needs as well as in his speaking career.
Jill wrote Painful Blessing, a book about her spouse and caregiver experience shedding light on the real life impact of acquired brain injury, and providing hope and encouragement to those facing significant challenges.
Jill’s story will touch your soul and inspire you to press through any circumstance. The cost of lunch is $25.00. Register today and invite a friend.
LUNCHEON DETAILS
RSVP REQUIRED
UNIVERSITY CLUB
1225 SW 6th Ave. Portland, OR 97204
WEDNESDAY APRIL 26TH
11:45 AM- 1:15 P

 

Did I get a THUMPS UP??

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We just held the event Monday.  I will call this week and let you know how it went and if I got a thumps up. BUT, the feedback I got so far has been positive!

I felt really POSITIVE about the event.  We had some problems in the set up, but fortunately my contact there gave us plenty of time to work things out.  I ended up working for almost an hour to get the program to work properly.   Again, God bless my contact for taking the time to make sure that everything work out.  He was amazing!

And what did the people leaving say?

You will have to wait to here!  I know; how mean is that.

Jill had her books on the table, all signed, ready to give to the people attending.  I took the photo below.  I don’t want to brag, but isn’t she just wonderful!!!

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Wow…we are somebody!

Did you see that?

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No?  How about now?

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YES…that’s right!  Jill’s book, Painful Blessing, was advertised today on Amazon!  I quickly went to the site to see how many MORE books I sold. It must be flying off of the “shelves.” They probably need to increase how many they print.   I better schedule more time so people can interview Jill and me.

Wait…Are they just advertising this book to me?   No…I don’t think so. EVERYBODY is seeing these ads.  Or are they???

What a place!

Screen Shot 2015-01-12 at 4.59.44 PMMental note:  Favorite hotel is now The Allison in Newberg.  No detail is overlooked–free snacks in the room, down pillows, fireplace, stunning bathroom, views of the vineyards.  Really impressive.

I had the privilege of speaking at the Inspire & Aspire Women’s Conference at the hotel. I talked about the quiet courage and sacrifice of the women that came before me in my family and pose these questions:  1) Do those women matter today?  2) Will we matter tomorrow?

The answers?  1) Yes they matter!  And 2) Gosh, I certainly hope so.

Our survival story has been playing out in our book, our speeches, and our ongoing recovery.  Your survival story will be different.  I encourage you all to ask these same questions of the people in your life.  I also encourage you to consider your impact.  How will you answer?

Jill Viggiano