My Gift








                   2016                                                                2017                                                                                                                                                                                                In 2016, the gift from my son was this travel game of bocce. We had just done our backyard last year, so this gift was meaningful because we put in a bocce court.  It made me laugh because I could now play bocce whenever I went!

In 2017, he gave me a 1.75 bottle of Bailey’s Irish Cream.  My thought process: I am becoming more important with him.

When I was in college, my dad just became plain stupid. I couldn’t imagine listening to anything he said to me…and I let him know it.  I’m not proud of that, just honest.  After I graduated and I was working, it amazed me how smart my father became.  He started to make a bunch of sense!

My son Tom, is in ROTC and will be joining the army when he graduates; this makes me extremely proud of him. I THINK I am becoming LESS stupid an maybe starting to make some sense. That is what the 1.75 bottle of Baileys Irish Cream meant to me!

We will see. Next year, possibly a shirt?

Fact: Up to 80% of strokes can be prevented!

Has that caught your attention?  It certainly caught my attention!

While not all stroke risk factors can be controlled, some can.  One of the risk factors that you can control is Atrial Fibrillation, commonly called AFib. This is a heart condition that causes your heart to beat abnormally. However, AFib is tricky—you may not be aware that you have it.

Amy Herron
Senior Coordinator, Programs
National Stroke Association


It is FINALLY over…

Sorry I didn’t write sooner; I was just overwhelmed with my clean shaved face!  I made a donation to the National Stroke Association and I will give to the Salvation Army (when ever I see them collecting) in December.

So far, I am doing as I promised. But I have to get something I don’t normally carry…money…so I can keep my promise of the season.  Promises are important to keep. This may be a BIG month for my donations, but it is important. Believe me, my cash donations are not large. I am doing with a little less this month because I believe it is important.  Why?  Because I didn’t shave for a month and it made me realize the MANY people have it worse off then me.

If you are up to it and NOT a female, try going unshaven next November. I can’t tell you what a difference it has made in my life.

It is over in 24 hours…




                   Before                                                      After        

What’s the difference between Movember, No-Shave November?

Let it grow! November is a popular time for men to sport facial hair as part of No-Shave November or Movember.

The beards are starting to appear.No-Shave November and Movember are underway and, while both are monthlong campaigns that involve growing out your facial hair to raise awareness for men’s health issues, they are not one in the same.Here is what you should know about the two mustache-related movements.

No-Shave November

The official No-Shave November movement encourages men (and women) to donate the money they would have otherwise spent on shaving-related products and services to the American Cancer Society.

National Beard and Moustache Championships

“The goal of No-Shave November is to grow awareness by embracing our hair, which many cancer patients lose, and letting it grow wild and free,” the website says.

The guidelines for No-Shave November are not cut and dried

“We understand people have different circumstances, such as a dress codes at work, that require you to remain well groomed, therefore we do not impose any rules,” the site says.

Dashing mustaches


On the other hand, Movember is championed by the Movember Foundation, which was started in Australia in 2003.

The organization donates the money it raises to projects and programs related to prostate cancer, testicular cancer and men’s mental health issues.

Mo Bros, as participants are called, agree to grow and groom a Ron Swanson-worthy ‘stache and “use the power of the moustache to create conversations about men’s health and to raise funds” for the causes the organization supports.


What You Should Know About The 6 Early Warning Signs Of Alzheimer’s Disease

Lately, the fear of Alzheimer’s disease (AD) is scary…mainly because they say it is hereditary!  Meredith Rodgers put together this article and the infographic to guide people going through this.


There is a form of dementia that results in cognitive and memory loss. According to Alzheimer’s Association, AD is one of the leading causes of dementia, accounting for 60 to 80 percent of patients diagnosed with dementia. Dementia is a serious condition that leads to loss of memory and intellectual reasoning which can affect one’s daily life.

Alzheimer’s disease usually results in the death of brain cells, which leads to the decline of memory and cognitive function over a period of time. Initially, patients with this condition are likely to have problems remembering things and mild confusion. In late stages of AD, it can worsen to the point that the patient is unable to converse or reason with people. Patients with Alzheimer’s require full-time support and care from their families and friends so that they can go on with their daily life. Support provided could involve helping them dress up or assistance during meal times.

The main factor contributing to Alzheimer’s disease is aging. As you age, this disease tends to get more severe. Most people who have this condition are above the age of 65. However, it is not normal for older people to have Alzheimer’s disease as they age. About 200,000 citizens of America experience early onset of Alzheimer’s disease while still in their 40s or 50s.

It is difficult to diagnose the early onset of Alzheimer’s disease because doctors don’t look for warning signs in young people. Thus, doctors may wrongly diagnose symptoms of Alzheimer’s for stress. For a successful diagnosis to happen, a comprehensive health evaluation will need to be carried out by a doctor. It is not yet known what causes the early onset of AD. However, scientists believe that specific rare genes that are inherited could play a role. Even though Alzheimer’s disease has no cure, patients with this condition can take treatment to reduce the progression of the disease. This might help them live a happy and fulfilling life.  

Early warning signs of Alzheimer’s disease

It is normal for people to forget stuff, for example, where you placed the keys. However, if this happens too often, it could be an early warning sign of AD. Most of the time people who have problems remembering things also experience difficulty in communication, focus, and reasoning. If this happens to you or your loved one, you will need to visit a doctor for medical evaluation. A doctor will perform a thorough evaluation to try and identify the root cause of your memory problems. If successfully diagnosed, Alzheimer’s patients may commence treatment to help improve their quality of life. The following are the most common early signs of AD which you need to look out for.

  1. Memory loss

Difficulty remembering stuff like names or new information is an early warning sign of AD. Initially, your short-term memory will be affected but with time, you may have problems with your long-term memory as well. Hence, you might find yourself having problems remembering important events that happened in your life. In addition, it is common to find people with memory loss asking the same question repeatedly. This is because they cannot store information in their memory.

  1. Problems communicating

This is another early warning sign of Alzheimer’s. People with AD normally have problems finding the right words to explain their themselves. Therefore, it can be hard to chat with someone with Alzheimer’s disease.

  1. Difficulty conducting routine tasks

If you have Alzheimer’s disease, you might find it difficult doing routine tasks like cooking or playing a game like chess. Doing tasks that seemed obvious before might seem a challenge to do them now.

  1. Personality and mood change

You may experience changes in mood such as depression as an early warning sign of Alzheimer’s. Also, this condition may result in personality changes, for example, going from being a shy to outgoing person.

  1. Difficulty solving problems 

If you have problems making decisions or solving problems, it could be an early sign of AD. For example, you might find it hard to follow a recipe or pay your bills. Also, you might find yourself placing your stuff in the wrong place. For example your cell phone in a fridge.

  1. Apathy

That means you might lose interest in activities you used to enjoy, including your hobbies. If you used to like going out and having fun with friends, now you might find it less amusing. Also, you may find yourself spending less time with your loved ones.

If you experience one or more of these symptoms, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have AD. However, you should not just ignore symptoms like memory or cognitive problems. The best thing to do is to visit a doctor so that they can determine if your signs and symptoms are as a result of Alzheimer’s disease.

Alzheimer's Disease Signs and Symptoms

Alzheimer’s Disease Signs and Symptoms, courtesy of

I received this touching note. Are you turning 60? Read This!

I just amazing received this beautiful note.  Maybe I am thinking the right things?


I just read your post.  Sounds like you are asking the same questions many, many people ask when they turn 60.  There are no magic answers.


Have you ever thought that one gift your stroke gave you is time? Time to do your blog, time to be a grandfather, time to be a caring father,  time to volunteer, time to have quality time with your wife, time to exercise,  time to do presentations, time to pray, time to help Jill around the house, time to have fun, travel, etc.


Perhaps you need to think of yourself as retired……not unemployed.  Is this the life you planned and worked so hard for all those years.  No, but does real happiness come from our jobs or from  our personal relationships.  Only you can find your answer to that question.


Perhaps God has some plans for that time………another door to open…….other paths to follow.   If you ask, he will help you open the door.


The journey is the secret……..not the destination.

From someone still asking the same questions……..

I woke up again…and I am still 60!

I can’t stop thinking about this!  I am still 60 years old.

In reflecting… I had good intentions, but I haven’t helped anybody achieve their dreams. I look at this as a failure in life…if I can’t help others.

Now I am 60 with nothing to show for it…and I don’t have much time left!  But at least now, I am going to savor each moment with the time I do have left.

I asked my wife of 28 years: what happened to my big dreams? She answered that question with a kiss. Isn’t she a great wife?

I would like to give back to other struggling entrepreneurs. Can I show them how to succeed in sales? I have been out of sales for 10 years (a stroke thing). Do I still have what it takes?? I would like to do the things that people really want: all the ins and outs of sales. I would like to help them…no compensation…but with the fact that I was doing something nice.

Where do I start? Please call or write to me.


More about No Shave November…


While you’re growing out your beard for the month, you’re likely to tell people about why you’re doing it. It’s a great conversation starter, and can really generate a huge conversation about cancer. It can get more people to make sure they’re getting regular checks for prostate cancer, breast cancer, melanoma, etc.


To properly participate in No Shave November, you should be donating the money that you aren’t spending on razors and shaving accessories to a cancer research organization, such as the Prevent Cancer Foundation, Fight Colorectal Cancer, and St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital. Don’t just participate in No Shave November to grow an awesome beard — make it worthwhile and donate the money you’re saving to cancer research!


There’s more to growing out your beard than just getting a new look. There’s actually health benefits, too! A beard is a natural toxin filter — it keeps things like pollen and dust from getting into your lungs, because they’re clinging to your beard instead.

It can also help prevent blemishes. Shaving gives you a risk of getting bacteria into your skin, especially if you’re not using proper methods. Growing out a beard can combat this.

November is when the weather really starts getting cold, and a beard can act like a scarf for your face and neck. It’s really the perfect time to stop shaving!

Lastly, a beard can help with sun protection. Obviously you will still need to apply sunscreen, because hair isn’t going to block out 100% of the sun’s UV rays, but it’s been proven that a beard can block up to 95% of them! What better way to support cancer awareness than actually practicing it?

I am happy I’m not depressed!

Posted by Amy Norton, HealthDay Reporter

People with depression tend to die earlier than expected—a pattern that has grown stronger among women in recent years, new research finds.

The study followed thousands of Canadian adults between 1952 and 2011. Overall, it found people with depression had a higher death rate versus those without the mood disorder. The link only emerged among women starting in the 1990s. Yet by the end of the study, depression was affecting men’s and women’s longevity equally.

The findings do not prove that depression itself shaves years off people’s lives, said lead researcher Stephen Gilman.

The study could not account for the effects of physical health conditions, for example.
“So one explanation could be that people with depression were more likely to have a chronic condition,” said Gilman, of the U.S. National Institute of Child Health and Human Development. But even if that were true, he added, it would not mean that depression bears no blame—because depression can take a toll on physical health.

“Many studies have found that people with depression have higher risks of heart disease and stroke, for example,” Gilman said.

The findings are based on 3,410 Canadian adults who were followed for up to several decades. The first wave of participants was interviewed in 1952, the next in 1970, and the final in 1992.

At each wave, roughly 6 percent of adults had depression, based on a standard evaluation.

And on average, those people had a shorter life span. For example, a 25-year-old man who was depressed in 1952 could expect to live another 39 years, on average. That compared with 51 years for a man without depression.

Men with depression at any point had a higher risk of dying over the coming years, versus those free of the disorder.

The picture was different for women, though. The connection between depression and mortality only surfaced in the 1990s.

Women with depression at that point were 51 percent more likely to die by 2011, compared with other women. That brought their risk on par with depressed men.

The reasons are unclear. “Why would depression be less toxic to women at one time point than another?” Gilman said.

He speculated that societal shifts have some role. Women in recent decades have been much more likely to juggle work and home life, or be single mothers, for example.

Another possibility, Gilman said, is that women tend to suffer more severe depression these days.

There was some evidence that the impact of depression lessened over time. Men with depression in 1952 no longer showed a higher death risk after 1968, for example—unless they also had depression at the later interviews, too.

As for causes of death, there was no evidence that suicides explained the risks among people with depression.

“There were actually few suicides,” Gilman said. “People with depression died of the same causes that other people did — like cardiovascular disease and cancer.”

Dr. Aaron Pinkhasov is chairman of behavioral health at NYU Winthrop Hospital in Mineola, N.Y. He said depression can indirectly shorten life span in a number of ways. Depressed people are less able to maintain a healthy lifestyle, and are more vulnerable to smoking and drinking. They may also be less equipped to manage any physical health conditions.

“Once depression sets in, you may not have the motivation or energy,” said Pinkhasov, who was not involved with the research.

Gilman said his study can’t say whether treating depression erases the higher death risk associated with it.

But, Pinkhasov said, there is evidence that depression treatment can help people better control high blood pressure and diabetes, for example.

He stressed that there are various effective treatments—from “talk therapy” to medication.

“Don’t blame yourself for being ‘weak,’ or tell yourself you should just snap out of it,” Pinkhasov said John Hamilton, a counselor at Mountainside Treatment Center in Canaan, Conn., agreed.

He said that women, in particular, can have a “sense of shame” over mental health symptoms in part because they feel they need to be the rock of the family. “They might even have people around them saying, ‘Snap out of it, you have kids,'” said Hamilton, who also had no role in the study.

“But depression is no different from any other chronic disease,” he said. “We need to have a compassionate, nonjudgmental approach to it.”

The results were published Oct. 23 in the journal CMAJ.

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Holy cow…I am 60!

I turned 60 at the beginning of the year…but I am NOW considering what that means.  What have I done with my life?

My father had a heart attack at 60 and died from another heart attack at age 62.  Did he teach others how to succeed in sales?   Did he mentor others to take risks?  Did he coach others that needed a coach?  The answer: No…but I am not doing that either!

When I was in my early 20’s, I was confident I would my successful, but it would take some time. So I spent my 20’s, 30’s, 40’s and 50’s putting the plan in place that would help me accomplish my goals.  Now I am 60, and where am I?

I didn’t accomplish any of my life changing goals!

But I did achieve my annual goals; I dated a lot, I got married to my beautiful wife, I raised 2 great kids, I went on nice vacations, I have a great home.  But did I accomplish anything significant? Not really.   OK, now that I think about it, I have accomplished a lot!

I have lived each day as if it were my last and I feel blessed with every remaining day.  After my stroke, I am content with what I have and find joy with the things that other people have.  I can’t explain it, but I think that defines happiness!