Are you sitting around with your parents and notice somethings not right with them; are the having a stroke?? Watch this video:
Wait… didn’t you write to us yesterday?
Yes I did…but I am becoming bored! Aren’t you?
It is my birthday...and many people are writing to wish me good cheer. So I am sitting by my computer acknowledging the well wishes.
No story would be complete without the mention of the Corona Virus. My guess is that EVERYONE is tired of hearing about it and welcomes when it is over.
You can go back to my very FIRST blog in July 2012 and read how is quickly coming up on my 4 year anniversary of my stroke; that was 602 Blogs ago! Can you believe it has been 602 Blog Posts?
When I started, I figured I can go for 100 of so Blogs; but here I am at 602! My first few year a blogging, I had pictures, but I had to delete them because I was sued. I guess they don’t appreciate using the photos that other posted on line. Now I pay a licensing fee to ShutterStock so I can use their photos. I must say, they have some awesome pics.
Anyway, thanks for reading this.
Yup…Jill is writing an Epilogue to her Painful Blessing story…and I decided to distribute it for FREE…No Charge…to you!
I know what you thinking…How could he forgo all that income from this Epilogue? What can I say, it is just the way I am.
Don’t expect another book; it is truly an Epilogue. You will fine out:
- Am I getting better?
- What has he gotten back?
- Can he talk?
- Will I go back to work?
OK, maybe you know some of the answers, but there are plenty of people who don’t. Of course, you can look at my video file to see the progress I have made so far. But the way Jill writes about her experience brings it to the next level.
This chapter has certainly become an Epilogue; it’s a final review…to date. Jill shouldn’t have a problem connecting with people. It is the ONLY good thing about this: People now have the time to offer their assistance if they take a break from Facebook, LinkedIn, etc.
Impacting others is a theme I have when writing my blog posts. Each post, I get an overview of how many people read my blog. When I write something REALLY personal, I get a large number of readers…and I get personal emails of how I impacted that reader. When I wrote about retirement a few days ago, I got this response and asked if I can use it in my blog. She graciously said yes:
I met you and your sweet wife at a Portland Executives meeting a couple years ago or more.
I have enjoyed following your blogs and your journey. I know you can’t speak but does the typing for your blog still bring you joy? Your thoughts in the blog are an encouragement to so many I’m sure.
I was treated a year ago for what was initially thought to be a stroke. It didn’t turn out to be one however it was a migraine acting like a stroke. Determined probable cause – stress. Imagine that. I’ve really worked at becoming unhurried and learning how to relax and enjoy the moments in my life. Patience does not come easily as you know. I remember some years ago when my husband was dying of cancer I realized everything in life comes from inside ourselves and of course through God in our lives. Yet it took me years to begin working on the inside.
It’s not that I don’t think you know any of these things, I have seen much of it in your blog. I just wonder if you are looking too hard for fulfillment in retirement. Please forgive my thoughts if they intrude or are things you’ve already considered. Retirement is for what we’ve longed for during our lives, time to give to others, time to study something that won’t make us any money but will enrich our soul.
Think about what you want to retire from – that is important. But keep the things that still feed your soul. I will continue to keep you in my prayers as I think of you. Keep up the good work, your life is an encouragement to others whether we can speak or not.
With hugs, Jan
My wife says I should volunteer, but I can’t speak! Who would hire me? I could volunteer to join a group of people, ….but I still can’t imagine what I would do.
Would you hire me? Would you have me volunteer to grow you sales organization? I am guessing no. If you don’t have enough funds to invest in you sales team (and the most profitable group in your company), I am guessing you don’t need a volunteer , who can’t speak…. lead you sales team.
Let’s look at some alternatives
- If I retire now (with all the speeches being cancelled), I could be an expert in the Corona Virus. People love experts in this!
- Maybe I could walk your dog? I could charge so much per minute. Of course I can’t clean up (only one arm) so I can just walk dogs who won’t relieve themselves. This cuts my dog walking by a slight percent (like 100%!)
- I could play pickle ball. This is something I still want to do, but how often could I play?
- People have said I could watch their kids. I get tired of kids after 5 minutes. If they have that timeframe, I am good to go.
- I could wait 2 years to retire, and I could do stuff for senior citizens. This is the best idea I can think of! I could bring back purpose to my life and I could pick the people that I work with….since I am a volunteer.
Looking at my alternatives, the last one has some merit. My year is in flux, so this my be sooner than I plan. OK, now I am excited.
I can offer my speaking for another 2 years, and then be done. Off to the new adventure; I can’t wait…only 2 more years!
Your January enrollments are done, your clients have their W-2s in the mail, and you’ve got their renewal meetings penciled in for next fall — time to sit back, right?
Not so much, especially if some of those clients have highly compensated employees or partners. In fact, now is the perfect time to pivot back to those clients and give them a clear look at whether they’re doing enough to help all their associates protect their most valuable asset: their ability to earn an income.
Three points of protection
Article 4 Warning Signs an Employee Plans to Quit—and What to Do About It
Think of it as a triangle with three essential points to make it complete:
- Savings and investments if they live a long time
- Life insurance if they die early
- Disability insurance if the unexpected happens and they can’t work
Your clients probably have 401(k)s and term or permanent life insurance in their employee benefit packages. They might have group disability coverage, too, but there are two key differences: access and portability.
Employees can go online or pick up the phone and buy their own life insurance at near the same cost their employer offers it (and most often, for much less and with higher benefits). Same thing with savings and investments, where banks and financial advisors abound to help them set up plans with a variety of retirement options.
But disability coverage is different. Employees can’t buy income protection insurance on their own at anywhere close to the cost of buying it through work. And they can only access this valuable coverage without medical evidence at the workplace. Not only that, if it’s a group long-term disability plan, they’ll lose their coverage if they leave the employer. That’s why your clients need to help all employees protect their income if they become sick or hurt and can’t work — providing needed protection for future years, even if they change employment.
Paint a clear picture
This is why now — after the W-2s are out — is the ideal time to reconnect with your clients. They’ve just seen a complete view of their employees’ current incomes, so gaps in protection for all income are easier to spot.
One way to paint this picture is plotting income and age on a scatter diagram, then looking how many annual incomes fall above and below the $200,000 line. We set our metaphorical Mendoza line there because the most popular disability plans cover 60% of base earnings up to $10,000 a month. That amount of coverage will adequately protect employees earning up to $16,667 a month, or $200,000 a year.
But higher earners will still have a coverage gap. Add incentive earnings such as bonuses, commissions and restricted stock units (often not considered by group LTD plans), and the underinsurance increases dramatically. If you have clients in fields such as financial, information technology, medical, legal or evolving industries such as biopharma, business services, energy or consultancies, they probably have employees who need more protection.
Paying for parity
Some of your clients may tell you they want to treat all employees the same, while others see value in differentiating based on job role, seniority or value to the organization. Both philosophies are legitimate, but you may need to ask more questions to determine what clients really mean if they talk about parity or an egalitarian structure.
Offering the same amount of coverage to lower and higher earners isn’t necessarily treating them equally. One group has a safe amount of protection, while the other is exposed to more liability. This unfunded liability and inequity is often brought to your clients’ attention at the time of claim — but it’s too late then to transfer the risk. Your clients can choose to offer coverage that helps close this income gap and treat all employees equitably.
Individual disability insurance is one solution to bring to your clients. It can be layered on top of the group disability plan they offer all employees and offer much higher levels of income protection with guaranteed rates on a guaranteed-issue basis.
An advantage of this solution over simply increasing the maximum amount of coverage on the group plan is greater cost containment and predictability for the group plan. The IDI coverage is essentially “walled off” from the group contract, so claims on the individual plan don’t affect the experience on the group contract.
And because the IDI policy is individual coverage, it’s 100% portable. That could be an important attraction point for some of your clients’ highly paid — and highly valued — key contributors, especially with severance and employment contract obligations.
Adding IDI coverage doesn’t necessarily have to increase the burden on your clients’ benefits budget, either. Look for a plan with flexible payment solutions that allow them to choose whether to provide it as employer-funded coverage or facilitate access as a voluntary benefit for greater parity.
In a perfect world, employees would own their benefits — not “rent” them. Unfortunately, they’re not always going to be able to access benefits on their own. So when they can, they need to get those benefits they can keep by accessing them through the workplace.
What Do You Know About Disability Insurance survey???? Here is what Life Happens says about that:
Think about it. What would happen if suddenly, due to an illness or injury, you were unable to work? Without your paycheck, how long would you be able to make your mortgage or rent payment, buy groceries or pay your credit card bills without feeling the pinch? If you’re like most, it wouldn’t be long at all: 7 in 10 working Americans couldn’t make it a month before financial difficulties would set in, and one in four would have problems immediately, according to a Life Happens survey.¹
That’s where disability insurance comes in
Think of it as insurance for your paycheck. It ensures that if you are unable to work because of illness or injury, you will continue to receive an income and make ends meet until you’re able to return to work.
You don’t hesitate to insure your home, car and other valuable possessions, so why wouldn’t you also protect what pays for all those things—your paycheck.
Explore this section to learn more about the different sources of disability income protection and ways to get coverage.
Do you ever listen to Rick Warren? I have been reading his Pastor Rick’s Daily Hope and TODAY he really hit home with me. It explains that we should be HAPPY for everything we HAVE, rather than be filled with envy. Rather than explain it (Jill would have to help me), I will include the info down below:
“Isn’t everything you have and everything you are sheer gifts from God? So what’s the point of all this comparing and competing? You already have all you need.”
(1 Corinthians 4:7-8 The Message)
Instead of focusing so much on what we don’t have and what didn’t happen, we can be grateful for what we do have. This doesn’t come naturally to me, probably not for you either, and not even for the apostle Paul, who said, “I have learned to be content.” Being content is a learning process.
The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 4:7-8, “Isn’t everything you have and everything you aresheer gifts from God? So what’s the point of all this comparing and competing? You already have all you need” (The Message).
Envy is based on the myth that you need more to be happy. Envy always looks at others and asks, “Why them? Why did they deserve it? I deserve what they have.” But gratitude says, “Why me? Why did God give me this? I’m blessed because I don’t deserve what I have.” It totally flips our perspective.
Struggle With Envy
Although we all struggle with envy, it’s hard to admit it because it’s such an ugly emotion. When you’re envious of others, you really want them to fail, because it makes you feel better that they don’t have more than you. That’s pretty crazy, isn’t it? If we could only learn to be grateful for what we have, we could begin to get rid of these feelings of envy.
It’s important to understand that envy is not having a desire or a dream or a goal. It’s good to have those. Envy is not looking forward to something or hoping that something can happen in your life or even wondering if you should have some thing. Envy is instead resenting somebody who already has what you desire or has reached a goal you have yet to obtain. Envy says you can’t be happy until you get that desire or goal. Envy is not being grateful for what you already have.
Yet the Bible tells us that we already have more than we need and far more than we deserve. Every good thing in our lives is a gift from God, and it is up to him to decide when and how he blesses us. It’s up to us to choose to be grateful and make the most of what we’ve been given.
As Ecclesiastes 6:9 says, “It is better to be satisfied with what you have than to be always wanting something else” (GNT).
I do! Read the article that Mary Burns wrote.
Did you know studies have shown up to 72% of patients have some form of cognitive impairment after stroke? Even as a medical speech-language pathologist (SLP), I found this statistic shocking. It’s a common misconception that an SLP only helps people regain their ability to speak. One of the most meaningful ways an SLP can help someone after stroke is by helping them improve and regain cognitive abilities.
Because of damage to the brain, a stroke survivor may experience changes in thinking, problem solving, memory, or attention. Factors such as the location and type of the stroke will impact the presence and severity of these side effects. Changes in cognition can make it hard for people to communicate, control emotions, perform daily tasks, or return to work or hobbies.
Stroke survivors are often reluctant to seek out services for cognitive rehabilitation because they struggle with embarrassment, fear, or denial. In order to help break down these barriers I want to provide a window into what cognitive therapy after stroke may look like.
Step 1: Your medical team will send a referral to an SLP. Depending on your abilities, this may be for in-home or outpatient therapy. The clinic will likely check your insurance benefits and call you with details. Remember, just because your team sent a referral to one clinic, does not mean you have to go there.
Step 2: You will schedule an evaluation appointment with an SLP. This appointment will typically be 60-90 minutes long. Sometimes it is helpful for a caregiver to be present, so please ask about this when you schedule your appointment. During this appointment your therapist will ask you questions about your medical history, hobbies, and goals. After a short interview, your SLP will administer a cognitive test. This test may feel discouraging and exhausting at first, but the purpose of the test is to identify your strengths, weaknesses, and how to improve. You may feel very tired after this appointment so you may want to schedule time to rest after.
Step 3: After your evaluation, you will work with your SLP to form a therapy plan. This means deciding how many times to attend therapy weekly, how long therapy may last, and goals to address. It’s important to be honest with your therapist about what schedule is reasonable for you and what you want to accomplish.
Step 4: Therapy sessions may last anywhere from 30-60 minutes. During these sessions you and your therapist will work on different activities to help your brain heal and you achieve your goals. Ask your therapist questions such as “why are we working on this?”, give feedback about what doesn’t work for you. Let your therapist know if you left an appointment feeling exhausted. This will help make your therapy more effective. You will likely leave each session with exercises or strategies to practice throughout the week. You and your SLP should work as a team to help you recover.
Recognizing that cognition has changed and asking for help can be scary. But the services that speech-language pathologists can offer can help support your return to a full life after stroke. Please talk to your doctor and let them help connect you with the right provider.
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Mary Burns, MS, CCC-SLP has been working as a medical Speech-Language Pathologist since 2014. She specializes in working with adults with swallowing or communication disorders, especially after a stroke.
Working across the continuum of care gave Mary a unique perspective on strengths and needs in the rehabilitation system. This developed her passion for advocacy of person-centered care and the inclusion of patient and community education as a part of the recovery process.
Mary was drawn to Stroke Awareness Oregon because of their dedication to breaking down barriers that allow stroke survivors and their loved ones to access the services they need. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
If you did, read this note and the lessons learned It was posted on Facebook and it really struck home with me…especially Tips 11,12 & 13. It really describes how we all should be. I hope you like it:
The telephone rang. It was a call from his mother. He answered it and his mother told him, “Mr. Belser died last night. The funeral is Wednesday.”
Memories flashed through his mind like an old newsreel as he sat quietly remembering his childhood days.
“Jack, did you hear me?”
“Oh, sorry, Mom. Yes, I heard you. It’s been so long since I thought of him. I’m sorry, but I honestly thought he died years ago,” Jack said.
“Well, he didn’t forget you. Every time I saw him he’d ask how you were doing. He’d reminisce about the many days you spent over ‘his side of the fence’ as he put it,” Mom told him.
“I loved that old house he lived in,” Jack said.
“You know, Jack, after your father died, Mr. Belser stepped in to make sure you had a man’s influence in your life,” she said.
“He’s the one who taught me carpentry,” he said. “I wouldn’t be in this business if it weren’t for him. He spent a lot of time teaching me things he thought were important. Mom, I’ll be there for the funeral,” Jack said.
As busy as he was, he kept his word. Jack caught the next flight to his hometown. Mr. Belser’s funeral was small and uneventful. He had no children of his own, and most of his relatives had passed away.
The night before he had to return home, Jack and his Mom stopped by to see the old house next door one more time. Standing in the doorway, Jack paused for a moment. It was like crossing over into another dimension, a leap through space and time. The house was exactly as he remembered.
Every step held memories. Every picture, every piece of furniture…Jack stopped suddenly…
“What’swrong, Jack?” his Mom asked.
“The box is gone,” he said.
“What box?” Mom asked.
“There was a small gold box that he kept locked on top of his desk. I must have asked him a thousand times what was inside. All he’d ever tell me was ‘the thing I value most,'” Jack said.
It was gone. Everything about the house was exactly how Jack remembered it, except for the box. He figured someone from the Belser family had taken it.
“Now I’ll never know what was so valuable to him,” Jack said.
“I better get some sleep. I have an early flight home, Mom.”
It had been about two weeks since Mr. Belser died. Returning home from work one day Jack discovered a note in his mailbox. “Signature required on a package. No one at home. Please stop by the main post office within the next three days,” the note read.
Early the next day Jack went to the post office and retrieved the package. The small box was old and looked like it had been mailed a hundred years ago. The handwriting was difficult to read, but the return address caught his attention.
“Mr. Harold Belser” it read.
Jack took the box out to his car and ripped open the package. There inside was the gold box and an envelope.
Jack’s hands shook as he read the note inside.
“Upon my death, please forward this box and its contents to Jack Bennett. It’s the thing I valued most in my life.” A small key was taped to the letter. His heart racing, as tears filled his eyes, Jack carefully unlocked the box. There inside he found a beautiful gold pocket watch.
Running his fingers slowly over the finely etched casing, he unlatched the cover. Inside he found these words engraved: “Jack, Thanks for your time! — Harold Belser.”
“The thing he valued most was my time!”
Jack held the watch for a few minutes, then called his office and cleared his appointments for the next two days.*
“Why?” Janet, his assistant asked.
“I need some time to spend with the people I love and say I care for,” he said. “Oh, by the way, Janet, thanks for your time!”
“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.”
Think about this. You may not realize it, but it’s 100 percent true.
1. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.
2. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.
3. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
4. You mean the world to someone.
5. If not for you, someone may not be living.
6. You are special and unique.
7. Have trust sooner or later you will get what you wish for or something better.
8. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good can still come from it.
9. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a hard look: you most likely turned your back on the world and the people who love and care for you.
10. Someone that you don’t even know exists loves you.
11. Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.
12. Always tell someone how you feel about them; you will feel much better when they know and you’ll both be happy.
13. If you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great.
To everyone who read this just now….
*”Thanks for your time.”* 😊