Everyone struggles with how to help another person in need. We might know someone in crisis and we want to help but we are afraid to ask questions and we don’t want to be nosey or impose. We end the conversation with “If there is anything I can do, please let me know.” The offerer and the offeree end up looking at each other with nothing to say and no help happens. I have been on both ends of this conversation and am writing now to offer some insights.
In our stroke experience, we had the good fortune of knowing people who offered specific help–I’ll mow your lawn; I’ll clean your house; I will organize meals for you; etc. People were amazingly generous and helpful and we are so grateful.
The experience highlighted the fact that helping is a two-way street. People were willing to help us and we were willing to accept help. By being open and communicating effectively, we were able to receive the help we needed. Nothing was wasted, every effort was appreciated. I shudder to think what would have happened if I had rejected offers of help and tried to do everything on my own.
Click here for:
- a list of items to have in order BEFORE a crisis happens, and
- a practical list of how to be helpful when a crisis occurs.