After giving my speech last week, an audience member thanked me for talking about how “normal life” changes after a dramatic event. He talked about the realization that “recovery” doesn’t necessarily mean going back to the way things were.
This is an important distinction. In my speech, I talk about Gordon’s and my decision that life was still going to be good after his stroke, even though it was going to be different. When our “normal life” was taken away from us, we chose to embrace the different life we were given.
There is still love and happiness to be had in this different life. Yes, I miss the old life sometimes but I cannot let myself dwell on it. It is gone. We have today and it is good–good but different.