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I have to recognize my grand daughter, Stella.  At 8 weeks old, she starts in daycare today.  My daughter, Rachel, got up at 4:30am today.  My wife, Jill, got up and helped her through this difficult time for here.  Rachel has separation anxiety and separating is very difficult for her.

I Remember…

I remember my first day taking Rachel to daycare.  She was a little bit older (5 months) so I thought this would be easy.  Not so.  I got there in plenty of time and sat with her for a half hour.  When I got ready to leave, the crying started.  What was I supposed to do.  Do I leave her, and run the risk of her hating me the rest of my life…or do I stay.

The daycare lady told me this is typical and that she would be fine.  I didn’t believe her.  So I stayed there another HOUR.  When I got ready to leave, the crying began.  I had to meet a client at his office, so I HAD to leave.  I remember what the daycare lady said, so I decided to peak.  I walked out the door, with her crying uncontrollably. When I peaked in, she was perfectly silent, enjoying the new sites!

That is the last time I was fooled by THAT!


I cried

Baby crying

Do I cry often?  Fortunately no.  I wouldn’t admit if even if I did.

I think every speech is meaningful to me. This one was different.  After I was done, I actually cried.  I know what you are thinking:  “Buck up!”

The person was a young lady who was moved by my talk. She is going thru something similar with her mom.  Jill always knows what to say.  I wish I could remember it (I am blaming the stroke) but she said something very meaningful to her.

I know what you are thinking…again. He is so lucky to have her. I know!  I kiss her every morning and say “this is going to be the best day.”  OK, I do kiss her, but I don’t say it everyday.  That would be creepy.   But I say it to myself…everyday.  I learned to look at everyday as a gift.

What to do AFTER you had a stroke

Posted by Lisa O’Neill Hill

You’re watching television and a commercial comes on. It’s one you’ve seen before, but this time you burst into tears. You can’t stop crying. Later, you spill something and you become angrier than you should. You’re frustrated because you can’t control your emotions.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Dealing with the emotional and psychological aspect of stroke can sometimes be just as challenging as dealing with the physical recovery. Changes in your emotions or behavior can be caused by the physical damage to your brain or from the effects of coping with the trauma and its aftermath.

It’s not unusual to be frustrated or angry that you can’t do all the things you could do before. You may be grieving the life and the identify you had before your stroke. It’s also normal to be depressed or sad. In fact, more than a third of stroke survivors are affected by depression. And some people struggle with lack of motivation or not caring what happens.

Many survivors also worry about having another stroke or transient ischemic attack (TIA), especially if they’re out in public or while sleeping. Others become so worried that they can’t sleep or become anxious when they’re left alone.

These tips may help you deal with the emotional aspects of recovery:

• Don’t feel guilty about your feelings. They’re not good or bad. They’re a normal part of the recovery process.

• Talk to someone. Talking about the stroke and your feelings about it will help you come to terms with them.

• Join a support group. Other survivors will understand what you’re dealing with and can offer insight.

• Know when to ask for help. Talk to your doctor if you think you could benefit from counseling or from an antidepressant.

• Exercise. It’s a natural mood booster and will help you feel better.

• Find time to relax. Listen to music you enjoy, meditate, or practice deep-breathing exercises. These can be particularly helpful if you feel anxious. Writing your worries on a piece of paper also can help.

• Do something you enjoy, whether that’s watching a silly television show, spending time with your family, or savoring a good cup of coffee.

• Give yourself credit. It’s important to celebrate your progress and it’s OK to make mistakes.

• Tell people how you’d like them to treat you if you become emotional. You might get more upset if someone dismisses your feelings or tells you not to cry.

For more information, go to StrokeSmart